After everybody finished praising her, it was now the lecturer's turn. He said," It's ok that everybody has praised you. But let me tell you frankly. Those pimples on your face look so dirty! And what kind of that dress have you worn??? It's looking horrible! Disgusting!" The smile on Aditi's face vanished at once and she became depressed and dull like a black hole. The lecturer then asked her to go back and take her seat. He observed her for the rest of the lecture. She was lost in some thoughts and was as dull as never before.
The question now is, while so many people praised her, why did she cling on to the last negative comment that she got? Why do we forget the happy events so soon and keep the sad events in focus? Why don't we LET GO?
Now letting go here, doesn't mean that we start pretending that the event has never occurred. Each event in our life leaves it's impact on us which we cannot deny. Every moment is an experience no matter whether it is a sad or a happy one. And we have to look at the past in order to learn from it, to bring greater understanding, compassion, and perspective to it. Letting go doesn't mean we forget the event as a whole. It just implies that we should let go of the negative memories linked to it, and at the same time, clinging on to what we learnt from that and what had brought a smile on our faces. And this is possible only through consistent practice. We should train our memory in such a way that it retains the good experiences in mind and deletes the bad ones which make us sad. After all, one gets good only at what one practices. If we practice holding on to negative thoughts, we will get very good at dwelling on what has hurt us in the past...which will bring nothing but pain. On the other hand, if we practice letting go, we'll be forever at peace, and we can move forward in life with full of positivity.
"Dwelling on any unhappy moment in life, is like channel surfing through a thousand possible TV shows, selecting and watching the one that troubles you the most, and then blaming the TV set for the pain that you are feeling!"
Life is tooooooooo short to hold on to negative feelings and negative pasts. Then why hold on? LET GO AND SET URSELF FREE !
9 comments:
such a reckless let go. seems very easy for u. dear u must have gained enlightenment to pen such a blog. not many gain.
:-) Truth is most of the times harsh! My dear anonymous writer, everybody knows that one gets good at what one practices. If u practice holding on to grudges, then u will get very good at dwelling on what hurt u in the past...and u'll gain nothing but pain. On the other hand, if u practice letting go, u will be at peace. And that's what I'm working on. Practicing to "LET GO" :-)
grudge: a feeling of ill will or resentment. true that can be let go if at all ur blog meant so.
:-) You got me right! That's all it meant.
then im (u r) either confused or i (u) didnt understand (know) wat exactly u wanted to pen. all unhappy moments need not involve blames and then provoke grudges. i hope u know tat. by dwelling on certain moments you can learn, understand, practice, and teach. every moment is an experience no matter it is sad or happy one.
Events can be either Happy or Unhappy depending on how we comprehend them. By letting go, I didn't mean that there is no reason to look at the past in order to learn from it, or to bring greater understanding, compassion, and perspective to it. It depends on us...what part of that event we want to let go, and what part we want to hold on to. And I don't think clinging on to the negative part of the event will allow us to move forward! Good things I learn from those moments, yes, I'll carry them in my mind till the last.
now u dont say anything on having grudge. in the first place, grudge sounds odd. u must change ur blog accordingly. clinging to a negative component is one aspect while having a grudge is different. include an erratum, pen down the positives, and the ways to deal (simply saying let go seems a mere farce) with the grudge aspect
:-) Thanks for the suggestions :-)
lets come back to the class. i have several questions. i) what if the teacher asked other students to say some bad things about aditi and at the end teacher praised her? ii) did the students who said some good things about aditi really meant what they have said? iii) assuming that whatever students have said is from their heart no matter teacher asked them to say or not, what if the same students who said some good/bad things about aditi which made her face glow/dull change their stance? when u pen such blogs especially asking/suggesting/advicing ppl to let go u should come clear. u should write only after viewing from all perspectives not just to justify your thoughts on let go. justification is important however not at the expense of others thoughts and/or sentiments here for instance the teachers, aditis, and the students. the justification story abruptly stops. if it continues ur justification might go wrong. now an erratum again. u will keep changing it dear.
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